I saw you on social media some time ago. You were with your boyfriend, hanging out aimlessly. Lying on his lap. Your hair was in a mess. Your eyes were empty. You looked so different from how I saw you in person just about 6 months back.
Back then, you were afraid your parents would know about your relationship. Your boyfriend denied the two of you were together. Your face used to radiate the youthful shine and smile, and back then, even though the relationship was already starting, you still looked youthful and fresh like any 13 year old should.
Much has changed since then. You’re 14, but look like a 16 year old. You have a haggard and worn out look, but you’re stubbornly sticking by your boyfriend who is 5 years older than you, doesn’t even have a job, and smokes.
Your parents probably wouldn’t have approved. But you went ahead anyway. There’s still time to change, but I fear, by the time you would have realized, it would have been too late.
I thought of writing this post when I first saw the social media update, but I held off initially. I was stirred again by the passage I was teaching.
Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:
9 For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck.
The passage applies to both sons and daughters alike, and I’ve seen many fools around. But it used to be accepted that the father gives instructions, and the mother has a law.
Nowadays, that is not the case. The son gives the instruction, and the daughter gives the law. The parents hear the instructions and forsake not the law of never displeasing their children. The son/daughter is a fool, but so are the parents! It’s a case of fools raising fools.
It’s not even safe to tell kids, “Listen to your parents.” Why? Because there is nothing to listen to! This all comes down to parents rearing pets, not children. See https://nationalchristianacademy.wordpress.com/2017/04/14/rearing-pets/ for a better treatment of the subject.